My 17-Year-Old Son Shaved His Head for His Sick Girlfriend – The Next Day, Her Mother Said, ‘You Need to Come to the Hospital and See What Your Son Did’

The automatic doors of the hospital slid open, and I walked in too fast, my car keys still clenched in my fist.

Diane was already waiting in the corridor, her arms crossed tightly against her chest, when I arrived. She didn’t smile or even say hello.

“Rachel. Come with me.”

I followed her down the hallway, past the nurses’ station, past a cart of folded blankets.

My mouth was dry.

“Diane, please, just tell me. Is Lily okay? Did Aaron say something? What happened?”

“He crossed a line,” she said, not slowing down.

“Come with me.”

 

 

“A line? Diane, my son

“Don’t do that, Diane. Don’t put this on him. He’s a kid trying to love your daughter through the worst thing that’s ever happened to her.”

She looked away, blinking fast.

“I felt my own temper start to rise.”

A cart rattled past. A doctor’s pager beeped somewhere down the hall.

“You don’t understand,” my best friend said, quieter now. “It’s easier if you just see it. I can’t explain it standing here. I tried on the phone, and I sounded insane.”

“Then help me understand on the way. Because I’ve known you for 20 years, and I don’t recognize you right now.”

Diane’s shoulders dropped, just a little.

“For weeks, Rachel. For weeks, I’ve watched him walk in here and make her laugh, eat, and sit up. And I stand at the foot of her bed, and I can’t get her to drink water.”

“You don’t understand.”

I stared at her.

“Diane…”

“Aaron shows up with snacks, and my daughter lights up. I show up with her favorite blanket from when she was six, and she just rolls over.”

“That isn’t his fault,” I said, defending my son.

“I know that,” my friend whispered. “I know that. But knowing it doesn’t make it stop hurting.”

She wiped her face quickly with the back of her hand, as if she were angry at her own tears for showing up.

“And today, today he did something, and I couldn’t even… I couldn’t find the words on the phone.”

“She just rolls over.”

Diane started walking again, faster now, her shoes squeaking on the polished floor. I kept pace.

“I’ve been jealous of a 17-year-old boy,” she said, almost to herself. “I’ve been jealous of him for being able to do something I can’t. Do you know how that feels? To resent the person who is keeping your child afloat?”